Choose a Girl

As long as you and your partner enjoy trying out and using dirty talk together, there is no wrong way to go about it. Another excellent source of ideas is returning to a time in the past when you and your partner had a particularly sexy encounter. Retracing history, so to speak, and adding embellishments where you see fit, can be just as hot as other kinds of dirty talk. A high school research paper is a great place to show off your extended vocabulary — the bedroom, however, is not. Talking dirty can be very helpful in long-distance relationships to keep the intimacy alive.

“You’re so big.”

This category of dirty talk involves referencing past sexcapades as a way to build anticipation and arousal. To do so, you could say something like, “Remember when you bent me over the couch the other week? I was dripping wet.” Dr. Tara particularly recommends this method as a means of sexting, too. Overall being able to talk dirty to your man will make him feel more attracted to you. Dirty talk can be so arousing to man, so it’s kind of waste if you don’t practice this skill.

• According to one study published in the journal Hormone Research.
• Remember that episode of Sex and the City where Charlotte is dating a guy, and every time he cums he shouts, “You fucking bitch!
• But once you realize it’s just extra, sexy level of communication with your man it can heat your sexual life up more than you ever imagined.

“I just want to be used by you tonight. Can I be your personal toy?”

• I suppose I shouldn’t have been surprised; his short intro on his profile read ‘if you’re into personalities, you’re in luck because I have multiple…’ Needless to say, I was done speaking with Patricia.
• In the heat of the moment, experiencing dirty talk even brings out a different side of me.
• Research shows that people who are more comfortable talking about sex in their everyday lives have more satisfying sex lives.
• I encourage people to stop putting pressure on sex and dirty talk and just giggle.”
• In Chapter 2, we discussed how it’s NOT the actual dirty talking phrases you use that are most important, but HOW YOU SAY THEM.

After you call your girlfriend a slut during sex, make sure to hold and cuddle her. She knows intellectually that you think highly of her, and she knows that the dirty talk was part of hot consensual sex. But sex, especially sex that’s emotionally or physically intense, is best followed by snuggling and reassurance of feelings.

Second, you do you boo, but I am not getting involved in this Shakespearean tragedy. Third, and most importantly, I’ve just told you I’m uncomfortable with whatever was going on here, and yet you continued, and then instructed me to stay for your pleasure? Again, I go to hang up, and suddenly he says, ‘I’m just joking, I wasn’t doing anything’. Well let me tell you, the Oscar for best hmar (donkey) goes to you.

But, as The Idol so skin-crawlingly illustrates, busting out these kinds of lines without warning can be at best intimidating and at worst degrading (and not in a sexy way). Your partner is having sex with you—borrowing phrases from some stranger on the internet can feel impersonal or affected, or even, let’s face it, cringey for both parties. I try to change the subject but then I notice the camera moving. Yes, it’s what you think, and yes, I was horrified. I realise what’s happening and go to hang up, but he says ‘no stay, I’ll only be 2 minutes’.